The use of the Pillars helps the child see the relationship between home and school expectations as it relates to parental rules, home responsibilities (i.e. chores) and the interactions between adults and children in the home.
It also provides a basis for enlightening discussions in those moments when a child's decision (whether good or questionable) can be a great "teachable moment".
Use the T.E.A.M. Method:
Teach: Parents play a major role in teaching children the importance of character
Enforce: Reward good behavior with praise and discourage inappropriate behavior with fair consequences to show you are serious about character Most of all, be consistent.
Advocate: Be assertive about the importance of being a person of character Make it clear that you expect your children to be trustworthy, respectful, responsible, fair, caring and good citizens.
Model: Always set a good example in what you say and do. Hold yourself to the highest standard of character by honoring the pillars. When you don't live up to your best standards, be accountable, apologize and vow to do better.
Use the 3 Cs.
Be Consistent. The messages you give your children should be clear, consistent and repeated frequently.
Be Concrete. Teach character using examples that your children can relate to and have experienced themselves.
Be Creative. Capitalize on the "teachable moment". Use good and bad movies, TV shows, the news, games, role-plays, and every day life to teach character development.
