Perpetrator mentality 101

Most perpetrators of violent crimes, such as sexual assault, are systematic violators that have the capability embedded in their personality to methodically coerce a victim into compliance not by physical force, but mental manipulation. Their sole purpose is to impose compliance into a victim so they do not see or become oblivious to natural survival signals and ultimately the perpetrator is able to violate the victim through that breakdown.

Common tactics used:

Forced Teaming- establishing premature rapport with someone in order to break down the social and/or an individual’s boundaries; usually is shown by the usage of the term “we” but it is not about partnership building or coincidence

Charm or Niceness- motive is to compel, attract; needs to be viewed in this instance as a verb, not a trait that someone possesses, like “this person is trying to charm me” so a sense of weariness can be established; a predatory criminal uses this devise systematically to lure outsiders to believe that they are not a threat

Too Much Details- seems very simple in its technique but when people tend to elaborate into great detail about themselves it is usually in an attempt to win someone over and build sympathy for them or if something does not sound credible, they keep talking until they either distract or convince a person; also we tend to lose sight of the start of the interaction and under what premises it began with someone who is a notorious elaborator

Typecasting- when someone is critical of your demeanor or personality whether that point is true or not, this perpetrator chooses to criticize you as a manipulative tool to anger you into submission; this insult is usually easy to refute

Loan Sharking- gladly lends out services/monetary support but then places you in a constant state of owning up to a debt of repayment; the motive is to impose charity into someone’s life and then exploit them; usually done to isolate that individual from receiving others assistance

Discounting the Word “No”- this perpetrator feels like actions are more credible than words and chooses not to hear your remarks as a sign of their control over the situation; they will not relinquish until it is negotiated; they undervalue a person’s autonomy

The Unsolicited Promise- using the word/phrase “I promise” to invoke a sense of trust but promises offer no such collateral; this is one of the most reliable signals in that it is nearly always of questionable motive

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